Hanuman: The best friend EVER!

Hanuman (Monkey God)

Lord Hanuman showing Ram and Sita in his heart. (Image from the Ghats at Parmarth Niketan Ashram in Rishikesh India)

“It’s not so much that I dislike the new friend’s I’ve made since I moved, it’s that I miss you!” I can’t think of a sweeter sentiment from a friend. Jodi is fantastic. We started as Craig’s List roommates. Then distance friends, she got married, roommates again (with her new husband!), I got married, she had a baby, a long distance move, and another baby. Through all these major life events, we are still amazing friends!

Maybe we don’t keep in touch every day, but when we talk or see each other, it is like no time has passed! The chemistry between us is obvious.  We visited my parents (hiking and a weekend out of the urban environment) and I head my mom say, “Jodi is great! It’s like she’s always been a part of the family.”  We heard her, giggled like little girls, and responded, “We can hear you!”

What makes a good friend?  Is it chemistry? Like the unexplained chemistry of romance? Or is friendship about two people having open 4th chakras in the right place at the right time? Why do we instinctively trust or enjoy some people more than others?  I don’t know what makes people friends, but I have learned from the support of many amazing friends how to be one.

The stories of Hanuman and Lord Ram, written in both Indian epochs the Ramayana and Mahabharata, teach us about friendship.  While Lord Ram’s romance is with Sita, he still has time and love for his best friend Hanuman.  In the face of Lord Ram’s imprisonment, Ram was unfazed as he just KNEW that his friend Hanuman would save him. And Hanuman saved Ram. Ram’s consort, Sita, was kidnapped and Ram completely trusted that Hanuman would figure out how to save Sita. And Hanuman saved Sita.

Hanuman always acts out of love and service. After being given a beautiful pearl necklace of gratitude from Sita, Hanuman chewed it up! He was looking for Ram’s name and when he didn’t find the name of Ram, Hanuman opened his chest and showed Sita and the world, that Ram and Sita truly live in his heart. He declared that nothing, not even a pearl necklace, is as valuable or cherished as Ram. I would like to say that tattooing someone’s name on your skin is hardcore, but seriously tearing your heart open to show your love is intense!  Do Something!Show your love to your friends.  Take some time and reach out to important people you haven’t talked to in a while.  Live selflessly and do what your friends need, sometimes before they ask for it.  Be the friend instead of simply being in a friendship.


I got your 6! Who’s got mine?

While watching a shoot ’em up movie with my husband, I heard a term that has been used in many movies and by people around me.  “I got your 6!”  was meaningless, without context and sounded like a jumble of words. So I looked it up on Urban Dictionary.  If you are giving directions via the face of a clock, 12 o’clock is in front of you, 3 to your right, 9 to your left and 6 is behind you.  So, I got your 6 means, I’ve got your back!  What a fun term.

WatchfaceAs you roll through life, who really has your 6? Who is there to catch you before you fall? You may have work or personal partners who help… but it is rare to have someone everywhere you go, at all times. I think that personal responsibility is a key to success. BUT?!?!?

When you discern your atman (energetic soul) as being without beginning middle or end, and as connected to the great divine, you realize that there are no limits to the forces of greatness that can say “I got your 6!”

The Bhagavad Gita presents the relationship between Arjuna and Krishna as a friendship.  Then, in chapter eleven when Arjuna realized the magnitude of Krishna’s reach, he was terrified at the limitless power of Krishna. The Narrator, Sanjaya says

Having spoken these words, the Lord once again assumed the gentle form of Krishna and consoled his devotee, who had been so afraid.

Excerpt From: Eknath Easwaran. “The Bhagavad Gita.” Chapter 11, Verse 50.

What terrified Arjuna realized, is that Krishna is really everywhere, in everything and even Arjuna himself makes up part of the great divine Krishna.  The human form, Arjuna’s friend Krishna, was consoling but also the same all pervasive divine force. When you can see your best friends, lovers, family members and strangers as divine, you know they all, “Got your 6” in one way or another.

Think about it

If all the people you encounter are divine and “got your 6”, then you also have the responsibility to look out for everyone else. Do you live in a way that is looking out for others? Covering someone else’s 6 is one way to express your own divine nature!

Hari Om, Namaste


Take action: I love your socks!

Living your life in accordance to the suggestions of the yamas is about acknowledging negativity in your life and taking action towards positive. Key words. Take Action.  Yoga isn’t just a theory of living but requires us to interact among our thoughts and actions.  I love you socks.

When you have a negative thought, respond with a positive action.  Aparigraha is non-possessiveness. I covet my friend Leah’s socks.  Seriously. They are amazing and I would like to have them.  Instead of holding onto thoughts of desire that may lead to hostility (Why does Leah get to have amazing socks and mine are just white… and kind of dirty?!?), create a positive action.  Tell Leah, “I love your socks!”

This is a small example. What if you covet another’s girlfriend? “I wish that I had Jessie’s girl!”  Know the song? What if you covet another’s job and end up harming someone with your desire to have what they have? Instead of sabotaging the good we see in others through negative thoughts and actions, yoga says to take positive action in our own lives in order to achieve desired results. Attend a training so you are better qualified for the job you covet.  Get involved with a hobby where you might meet someone as amazing as Jessie’s girl.

Actions, not just thoughts.
When you have negative thoughts, respond with positive actions.

Mastery of yoga is really measured by how it influences our day-to-day living, how it enhances our relationships, how it promotes clarity and peace of mind. ~ D.K.V Desikachar

For further reading on the yamas, the first rung of the 8 Fold Path of Patanjali, read the 2nd Chapter of the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali, verses 29 – 40.

Do Something!

Instead of coveting what other’s have, make a list of all the amazing things you do have.  List tangible items that you value.  List non tangible things  you value in yourself such as you sense of humor or fabulous glasses.  Finally, acknowledge that you have some amazing things and remember to treat them as they have value and be grateful when you use them!

Hari Om, Namaste!