“It’s not so much that I dislike the new friend’s I’ve made since I moved, it’s that I miss you!” I can’t think of a sweeter sentiment from a friend. Jodi is fantastic. We started as Craig’s List roommates. Then distance friends, she got married, roommates again (with her new husband!), I got married, she had a baby, a long distance move, and another baby. Through all these major life events, we are still amazing friends!
Maybe we don’t keep in touch every day, but when we talk or see each other, it is like no time has passed! The chemistry between us is obvious. We visited my parents (hiking and a weekend out of the urban environment) and I head my mom say, “Jodi is great! It’s like she’s always been a part of the family.” We heard her, giggled like little girls, and responded, “We can hear you!”
What makes a good friend? Is it chemistry? Like the unexplained chemistry of romance? Or is friendship about two people having open 4th chakras in the right place at the right time? Why do we instinctively trust or enjoy some people more than others? I don’t know what makes people friends, but I have learned from the support of many amazing friends how to be one.
The stories of Hanuman and Lord Ram, written in both Indian epochs the Ramayana and Mahabharata, teach us about friendship. While Lord Ram’s romance is with Sita, he still has time and love for his best friend Hanuman. In the face of Lord Ram’s imprisonment, Ram was unfazed as he just KNEW that his friend Hanuman would save him. And Hanuman saved Ram. Ram’s consort, Sita, was kidnapped and Ram completely trusted that Hanuman would figure out how to save Sita. And Hanuman saved Sita.
Hanuman always acts out of love and service. After being given a beautiful pearl necklace of gratitude from Sita, Hanuman chewed it up! He was looking for Ram’s name and when he didn’t find the name of Ram, Hanuman opened his chest and showed Sita and the world, that Ram and Sita truly live in his heart. He declared that nothing, not even a pearl necklace, is as valuable or cherished as Ram. I would like to say that tattooing someone’s name on your skin is hardcore, but seriously tearing your heart open to show your love is intense! Show your love to your friends. Take some time and reach out to important people you haven’t talked to in a while. Live selflessly and do what your friends need, sometimes before they ask for it. Be the friend instead of simply being in a friendship.